Emotional First Aid

By Lynda Shingledecker Wheeler

So, what can you do if you find yourself going through a crisis with your children/students? Victims and witnesses of traumatic events have three immediate needs:

• Safety and Security: freedom from fears and terrors associated with the event, sensory perceptions, and how thoughts and feelings are encoded;

• Validation and Ventilation: the need to tell the story of their experiences, understand the patterns of trauma reaction, and then recognize the human commonality of that pattern; and

• Predict and Prepare: facing the future and preparing for how they might cope, including identifying sources of strength.1

Specific things you can do:

1. Provide safety, security, and support

   • Create a “safe place” where children can talk openly and express themselves

   • Listen and respond to verbal and nonverbal cues

   • Notice and acknowledge things about children

   • Give children reassurance and encouragement

   • Provide structure, stability, and predictability with FLEXIBILITY!

2. Provide classroom activities that facilitate coping

   • Provide activities that encourage kids to share experiences

   • Apply their experiences to their academic studies (i.e., writing essays, etc.)

   • Look for ways that they can appropriately express their response(s) or emotions about the situation

   • Provide an “out” for children who are struggling and may not want to participate, yet continue to try to include them

   • Do something for others in need

3. Ways to help kids at home

   • Look for self-medication (food, extra activity, etc.)

   • Recognize importance of family time/devotions

   • Remember identity issues/cultural differences in responding

   • Encourage kids to talk to someone (if not you)

   • Do something for others in need

   • Acknowledge grief stages — denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance

   • Recognize ripple effect.2

4. Encourage Parents to do the following:

   • Spend time with their children

   • Identify stressors in their children’s behavior and get help if needed

   • Maintain some structure & boundary — a sense of normalcy to their family routines

5. Take care of yourself!

   • Acknowledge your own feelings

   • Recognize how you cope with stress

   • Talk to someone about what you are going through

   • Try to maintain a perspective on your situation

   • Manage your stress by taking a step back from work, exercising, allowing time off for fun, etc.

   • ASK for help!

You can’t help your children if you are not aware of your own stress and needs.

Here is a downloadable copy of this information.

Emotional First Aid

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1. The above information comes from”Common Reactions to Trauma” excerpted from the National Association of School Psychologists.

2. A spreading series of effects or consequences caused by a single event.